Just One of Those Hikes

Tonight’s hike was just one of those hikes…you know, where technically it was a great hike and you’re proud of yourself for doing it, but you also feel like a complete hot mess the whole time.


You might remember my post about being an outdoors newbie, and also the fact that I’m climbing Kilimanjaro in August.  I’m in this weird place where I am sill learning skills and feeling some mid-winter laziness, but I also know that I have to start training for the biggest hike of my life.  So when some new friends from a local women’s hiking group asked if I wanted to go for a sunset hike up Bird Ridge, I said yes.  Never mind the fact that it was a Tuesday, it was starting to snow, I have only hiked a few times this year, and Bird Ridge is literally one of the hardest day hikes in Anchorage and I’ve been too nervous to try to hike it up to this point in my life.


As I started driving down to Bird Ridge it really hit me that I was going to do a hike that I’m afraid of with a bunch of girls I don’t know that well.  I tried to think positive and tell myself that I just hiked Gavan Hill by myself and didn’t die, and by the time I pulled up at the trailhead I was pumped and ready to go.  We decided to hike up to 1500 feet, which is about 2000 feet short of the summit.  I immediately realized as I watched the girls fly up the steep trail that maybe I had been right and I was too slow to hike this tough trail with this group of girls.  I tried to hang on as long as I could without stopping for a break (because the girls had said they weren’t planning on taking any breaks) but I eventually had to stop or I was going to be sick.  As I gasped for air on the side of the trail and watched everyone (including my dog) hike ahead, I was left thinking about how out of shape I am and how I need to actually start training at the gym.  And then I told myself to stop thinking and start walking or I was never going to catch up.

Keeping up on the way down.  Notice how happy my dog is to be up here!

I pushed all of my negative thoughts out of the way and just kept on climbing up, and when I finally caught up with the girls at an overlook I was feeling a lot better because I knew it was break time!.  I was able to push through with a smile, but it didn’t change the fact that I was dragging my way up the mountain much slower than they were and I was feeling embarassed.  When you’re the slowest one in a group you sometimes want to make excuses or apologize a lot or make a big deal about it, but I decided not to do any of those things because maybe it wasn’t as big of a deal to them as it felt to me.  Luckily the group decided to turn around at 1000 feet when it started snowing, and I was able to keep up and actually chat with the group as we slid back down the mountain.


Back at the parking lot we chatted and made plans to hike together again soon, and everyone left with a smile on their face.  I knew I shouldn’t feel this way, but on the drive home I just felt so embarrassed and frustrated for going so much slower and not feeling as strong as the other girls.  That feeling stuck with me up until the point where I saw our funny trail selfies posted on Facebook and read the comments from other girls in our hiking group, most of which said things like “You guys were troopers for doing Bird Ridge in the snow!” and “I wish I could have been there!”.  Yeah, I was the slowest.  I had to take breaks.  The trail was STEEP.  But I did it!  I crossed Bird Ridge off my hiking list on a Tuesday night, got to hang out with some really cool ladies and dogs, and was able to get some amazing views despite the weather.  Since I plan on keeping it real on this blog, I want to put it out there that I’m not always going to feel happy and strong and positive and like I belong on every hike.  And you might not either.  That’s normal!  Every once in a while, you just have one of those hikes.  But as I go to bed tonight, I’m proud of myself for trying a new and difficult hike with new friends in the middle of the week.  And honestly, I’m actually looking forward to hiking with that group again – but maybe something a bit less steep next time.

Have you ever had one of these hikes?  What do you do when you realize that you’re not at the same athletic level as the people you’re with?

18 thoughts on “Just One of Those Hikes

  1. I have done a few of those hikes. I was diagnosed with asthma last year and it really affected my running and hiking abilities. My non-hiker husband was always way in front of me when I was the one who had insisted on climbing a mountain in the first place! But wonderful things happen when you decide to just go with the flow and have fun… 🙂 I’m glad you had such a good time in the end!

    1. Yes! At first I was like “I should probably just go home” but I’m really glad I didn’t. I hate that some of this is my anxiety (which is awful in the winter) just making things into a bigger deal. I do need to start training more if I want to hang with fast people, but I’m really glad I went out with them last night!

      1. I totally understand the feeling! I have anxiety too and it has affected my running by making long distances much longer than they really are! Keep going. I really look forward to reading about your future hikes! 🙂

  2. I feel you. That used to happen to me all the time. All. The. Time. Ultimately, there’s always somebody faster, no matter how much you push yourself. I decided that when I hike with a friend (if I was the faster one) that I’d go at their pace. It’s still a great workout, and I hike with friends to spend time with them. A group of strangers would probably be different, though. I think it’s inspiring that you are hiking Kilimanjaro. My bucket list hike is Tour du Mont Blanc. I was hoping to do it last year when I turned 50, but I’ve reset my goal for my 55th. Keep it up!

    1. I’m glad I’m not the only one! You’re right, there’s always someone faster. My usual hiking group is slightly faster than me and we’re really good friends so I never feel bad asking for a break if I ever need one, but my social anxiety was off the charts last night. I hope you get to do your bucket list hike! I need to look into that one, I’m just afraid of adding more to my already huge bucket list!

  3. “Since I plan on keeping it real on this blog, I want to put it out there that I’m not always going to feel happy and strong and positive and like I belong on every hike.” Good on you for this hike and the reality! We try to accentuate the positive in our blog but that doesn’t mean that every hike was as much fun as we’d expected or that every hike started (or ended) with unalloyed enthusiasm. We too have tried to be honest about the flops (like the one that was supposed to be 8 easy miles and came out as a hard, mosquito-clouded 15 miler), taking refuge in self-deprecating humor when we blog about those!

    1. Yes! I love it! When I was a runner I used to love reading race recaps where people detailed exactly how miserable they were at every point in the race. Usually people don’t do that, and then when I’m in a race and I’m miserable and want to quit I would feel like no one else ever felt that way during a run. Hiking is HARD, hiking with a hiking group is even more hard. But I’ve never gone on a hike that I didn’t think was worth it in the end.

  4. Love this post! I absolutely have felt that way on hikes with groups, where I am the one falling behind feeling out of shape or embarrassed. The great thing, though, is the more you put yourself in those situations, the stronger (mentally and physically) you become.

    1. I totally agree! I think that’s why I agreed to go in the first place. I think it’s easier when the group is bigger or if you know that at least one person is at/close to your speed. I’m afraid that I held those girls back, so now I just want to train harder so I can hike with them again and not feel the same way!

  5. I feel you – I have definitely had those hikes before, and it’s pretty torturous. I’m proud of myself for doing them, but they’re so painful and tough. Good for you, man.

    1. Thanks! I’m still feeling embarrassed today because I am worried that I’ve given myself the reputation of being slow. It’s so hard to find people who hike at the same pace as you!

      1. It’s a forever struggle, but I think your steady pace still works for you. I often hike at the pace of my husband (super fast) but it wears me out faster and we end up hiking slowly anyway. It’s just a perpetual struggle to find people to hike with – I feel you 100% on that!

  6. It happens! When I first started hiking, one of the first trails I attempted literally took me 1 mile an hour to complete. Adults, children, and pets passed me left and right, but it’s all part of the story. I try to keep this memory in mind whenever I see anyone on the trail who was just like me. Congratulations on staying persistent!

  7. I try not to think about how slow I am going, but when old people start passing by it is just plain frustrating! Glad to read I am not alone in this. Only one solution: hike more often and train harder 😉

  8. I do have a few hiking memories like this! One turned into an all out pity party (blog and picture to prove it_..;)….I have always been slower than my hiking friends (they know and don’t seem to care)….I’ve done many solo hikes so I don’t get that ‘hot mess’ feeling trying to keep up as I finished my NH48. Enjoy your August trip!!

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